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My first training in goal setting and early business skill tutorage came partly from observing long term small business owners doing it, along with my intuition and personal ethics.
Do unto others as you'd have them to do unto you. Live by this and life is good.
I can recall my mother writing the above inscription in my diary. Life training became my first business trying, and I was thrown into the business trying early due to my mother, a sole supporting parent, being a small business owner. The business and home life always overlapped. my sister and I became unpaid business workers in the same way most children do home chores such as putting out the trash of helping with the dishes.
Goal setting was natural to me as a child. I don't recall any teacher or a relative encouraging it in me—until after I told people of my plans and let them see that I was believed in them, I had strong ambitions, and as a child, I expressed them loud and clear to those who would listen—and even when they didn't want the hear of them.
Even when I was too young to show anyone results before I owned a paint brush, paper or paint I knew I'd would be an artist. I looked on the works of great artists and knew there could be nothing finer to aspire to than the paint a floral masterpiece, a magnificent tree or mountain or to capture for all time the innocent expression on the face of a child. Those were lofty ambitions for a child of six. Most little children dream big.
Oh, many of my ambitions were childish. I read Enid Blyton. I don't recall if it was the Famous Five or the Secret Seven, but I fell in love with the idea that girls should be allowed to do things. From that book, I recall a girl who believed that boys had more fun. I think her name must have been Josephine, and they called her Jo and allowed her to be a token boy and have a good time with the boys. I'm certain my memory of a book I read sixty years ago is a total distortion, but you can see in this that I was ripe to develop feminist attitudes and a burning desire to break out of the paternalistic attitudes prevalent then, in the early 1950s, and create my own equality. Back then, the only thing I had the power to do, the only show them the results came from disobedience.
And so, my six years and onward "Show them the Results," came in the form of juvenile delinquency. Those matches I stole to light the fires I burnt out the back of the disused hen house were to create charcoal, which became my first drawing materials. The mud pies I made were my first pottery sculpture. My refusal to be flush when there were chores to be done was due to my falling in love with another Jo, Josephine Marsh from Louisa May Alcott's Little Women would have approved of my hiding within a thicket curled with her book and planning to became an author, just as Jo Marsh planned to become. Besides, I was justified in ignoring my mother's screams of KATHRYN, when by name—in my mind, in my dreams— was Jo. Kathryn would receive the Mason and Pearson hair brush on the bare bum beating for this time lost in a book rather than doing chores. My dream of being the author and artist with the androgynous name that could never submit to this, girls can only have these tame dreams, while boys can dream of grander things, could disassociate from the pain. I never give my mother the satisfaction of allowing her to see me cry during the beating, even though it would have ended it sooner.
Did I learn the persisting and determination that would be required, to make a success of a career as an artist and author, over my mother's knee?
Why are we told not to tell people of our plans?
I'm a firm believer in stating your plans.
Would I have endured the struggles to become an artist and author, if I had not believed in my dreams, stated them as being fact, stayed true to them, long before I had what other's considered proof?
To heck with waiting until you have the proof.
Go shout your plans with pride and determination, and belief in yourself. That way, people blocking you from achieving your goals will tire and step out of your way. Those able to assist need to know you have the desire to be aided and the determination to do something with the help they are given-and an appreciation for it. Most of all, the one with the dream must stay committed, and having made a public commitment to your goals can give you additional resilience to keep going when things get tough.
Go get that dream and don't let anyone tell you not to shout it as loud as you need to. There isn't one solo path to a goal. Do what works for you.
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